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Happy Father’s Day: With Love from a Preschooler

In celebration of Father’s Day this year, I ‘interviewed’ Jasper (age three – very nearly four) with 20 questions for him to answer about his daddy – brilliant father and my partner in crime, Neil. These two have such a beautiful relationship and I just know that they are going to be best friends for life. 1. What is your daddy’s name? J: Neil. 2. How old is Daddy? J: He’s big, but I just don’t know how old. 3. What does your daddy look like? J: He has a head, a body, a belly button and a winky wonky [bursts into hysterical laughter]. 4. What is Daddy’s favourite food? He loves apples, cheese and cake. 5. What is Daddy’s favourite thing to drink? J: Beer…. and tea. 6. What does Daddy do in his job? J: He has his lunch there and works on a computer. Daddy does nothing else at his work, he only eats his lunch and works on his computer. 7. What is Daddy’s favourite colour? J: He likes green, but …

May Retrospect

A little later than planned, but here is my second monthly bulletin for the Cuteness & Chaos blog. May. Unpredictable, floral-filled May. This year, however, we have spent the month of May in South Africa. There it was autumn – the days were short, but sunny and warm. At night it was chilly and the first fires of the season were lit. We spent the initial weekend in Johannesburg, then travelled down to my family home in KwaZulu-Natal. May 2017, thank you for family-time and all these special holiday memories: While in Johannesburg I was able to have a reunion with my two oldest friends – we met on our first day of primary school 30 years ago. Despite living on opposite ends of the world from each other, and the pressures of life as working mothers, we have kept in touch after three decades. It was also really special for our five children to hang out together at the picturesque Irene Dairy Farm. In sunny Durban we enjoyed a return visit to uShaka Marine World. It is …

April Retrospect

Looking back over the past month is my new exercise for the Cuteness & Chaos blog. In the craziness of motherhood, this will give me an opportunity to record what my family has enjoyed, achieved and celebrated before time whizzes by and we forget. April. Beautiful, blossom-scented April. You are usually a special month for us (read more here), but this year you have outdone yourself. April 2017, you have exhausted, delighted and indulged us: At the start of April we exchanged contracts on the new house and ten days later had moved in (read more here). In all the frenzy of packing Neil and I remembered our sixth wedding anniversary. We hope to celebrate it properly at some point soon! Our first week in the new house was capped by the long Easter weekend. The Easter Bunny paid us a visit and so we scoffed chocolate eggs for breakfast. To escape unpacking boxes for a day, we enjoyed a sunny family outing to the Tallships Festival at Royal Arsenal, Woolwich. Jasper and I had some time out together as we watched Peppa Pig: My …

Goodbye House: Sentiments for our Home

Today is moving day. It has been been eight months since we put our house on the market and it has been a rough ride to get to this point. We’ve swapped estate agents, accepted offers, had buyers pull out, and have had complications up and down the chain. In short, it has not been a pleasant experience. I understand now why house selling/buying is considered to be one of the most stressful life experiences, after losing a child or going through a divorce. To top it off, then came the short turnaround time to get our belongings packed up – we have had only nine days since the exchange of contracts. Before Jules was born I packed up non-essential items, which have been held in storage since December. However, the bulk of packing has happened this last week around our work and childcare. Read here for my top tips on moving house with small children.  In all the frenzy of packing I have tried not to let the emotions of changing our home get to me. After …

1 + 1 = >2

Parenting involves a special formula of pure love and gut instinct. When you become a parent for the first time, this is what gets you through the sleepless nights, feeding schedules and endless nappy changes. Your instinct kicks in and you learn the nuances of your baby’s cries. Your devotion to your child is what pulls you through the exhaustion. This formula matures as your baby grows into a toddler and then a preschooler. You start thinking to yourself I am totally rockin’ this whole parenting thing, and then you have another baby… When I was pregnant with my second child (Jules) I was cautioned by friends and colleagues that ‘one child is one, but two children is many’. Chuckling in response while gently rubbing my blossoming bump, inside I was thinking Oh sh*t. And it’s true – one plus one does not equal two, it equates to a whole circus. Jules is now three months old and I’ve experienced a steep learning curve in my parenting. My special mama formula has taken on a great, big dollop of what is scientifically …

To Blog or Not to Blog…

… that is the question I have been asking myself for years. I have often considered starting a blog but never felt confident enough to start typing. Well, that is until now. So what has changed? With a new addition to the family (Jules) we are experiencing life in the crazy-fast lane. Weeks pass by in a blur and our baby girl is already three months old. I hope that blogging will encourage me to be disciplined about writing our stories and recording memories for family, friends and, ultimately, my children to enjoy. If my posts can provide some encouragement, humour or inspiration for other parents then that would be a wonderful bonus. Welcome to Cuteness and Chaos. Read more on the About page. You can also subscribe for updates on new posts and follow us on Instagram and Facebook.